Objection to the objectification

One of my friends had said that maybe women dress-up in a particular way to enhance their self-esteem. That is fine and dandy by me, I honestly don't care what women dress in; they can wear potato sacks for all I care or run around naked! The point is I do not care what they wear. My bane is that women then have the nerve to blame men for things women do ! When women wear something sexually appealing to men the natural response of most males is to stare because they find that attractive and the weird thing is that women find the attention empowering but they do not want guys staring! Why bitch about it then? Women know well enough that a low-cut tank-top or mini-skirt will solicit oooh's and aaah's from men but then women at the same time are on the defensive. Why do you do that is my question.
Take for instance Tyra Banks recently. She posed as stripper to try and get into the male psyche but when the time came for her to show it all on the stage she backed out claiming that she could not go through such exploitation of women. Ha ! The nerve of her. I think she forgets that she was a Victoria's Secret model and a Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue model. She can get away from the argument by saying VS caters to women but what about SI's swimsuit issue?
If women need to enhance their self-esteem go ahead and do so by wearing what you like but do not blame your choice on men by citing objectification!