How strong are you?

It is said that the measure of one's strength can roughly be judged by how hard a time they have went through. Well partially it's true. It's not complete though, there are a few things I would like to add. Since I am going through a very torrid time in my life these days, (there's more to it than just my heartbreak episode) I have been trying to gather my strength; and I mean mentally and not physically. During tough times or when faced with tough situations one will always come out stronger. Doesn't matter what the outcome was you always learn it and as we all know experience can be a bit of a bitch at times, as they say what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger is true during these times too. But you come out as a changed person nonetheless, the experience can leave you scarred and for sometime too, but how strong you really are depends on how you maintain your integrity and previous values. Ok some values need to change, like bigotry, hate, depression etc. the ones that are negative and don't do you any world of good. But a lot of us come out cynical as well at times. The idea is not to compromise on the desirable values that you had previously, becuse if you do then you have not only lost but you have also you have proven that you are weak because you wilted in the wind. Some of these cynics do realise that their attitude isn't a model one, but then again you have to take into account what they have been through and as always time will heal them and show them the way once again, but it's quite commendable that atleast they see their mistake. But those people who despite facing tough situations do not change their values for the better and still hold onto their previous ignorance despite being shown otherwise, they will never be strong this way.

Tough times never last but tough people do. That is true too. One must always learn from the worst of experiences, because once that is gone you will look back at it and wish you had tried to make the most of it. I know I have regretted not learning because I would be much better mentally at this juncture of my life. That being said I am now not letting go of this experience and trying to extract as much juice as I can and hopefully pass it down onto someone else who maybe going through a tough time and most importantly apply it when the next sign of choppy weather hits my radars.

So all I have to say is to always believe in yourself and have confidence because these phases pass out but also try to keep your honour and integrity because you may lose out the experience but losing out on those virtues and you may never get them back.