Everyone is selfish

Blasphemy!
Heresy!
I can see that happening but in limited contexts.

That is what most of you must be thinking about my heading at the moment, or somewhere along those lines, but most of you wouldn't stop to think about it. Am I not right? If I am, well then I am only human and can go far in the pursuit of perfection. That being said, let me proceed to elucidate on my proposition to the rest of the world.

Man by nature is a gregarious animal, we need to relate to people to in order to survive, well except for the few who would rather not. It would be hard to imagine a life where one is completely independent of his fellow man. Impossible almost, unless like previously mentioned, you are living on an island alone, naked. Why naked? Well I am sure in all possibility that you would not have made those clothes yourself now would you? I am talking about complete abstinence from the human race. That is impossible.

In the process of socialising we always assess if there is something that we can get out of the other person. Materially speaking, this could consist of goods others produce, services offered in exchange of compensation and so on and so forth. In that aspect no one would disagree with me in concluding that we are selfish, and rightly so, it has become a necessity in order to obtain certain things in life that one would spend too much time on anyways. Imagine you having to make a computer for yourself from scratch, I'm not talking about buying the motherboard separately, and then the speakers and when all the parts are there you just assemble it yourself. I am talking about building everything! The whole damn thing from scratch, literally. Insane! Over here we can easily say that selfishness takes on a neutral appearance.

But an interesting fact, that is not where this stops. It goes deepeer. Deeper than physical possessions. People who manipulate others for their means, yes, and the politicians, the sales-people, and all those who have a bad history with telling the truth (a disclaimer here though, I do not recommend stereotyping people, but this is how most of the world would understand, but more on stereotyping later in the future). These people you agree are selfish, twisting facts and thoughts to their own advantage. Quite obviously here, being selfish is not the right thing to do.

You must be sighing in relief by now thinking that this is over. Au contraire, there is something deeper.
Your friends, your family, your children and more.
Gasping in horror already? Too outraged and pissed off? A WTF moment?
How can they be selfish? Well let's see for instance, your friend needs you for his emotional needs, he needs you to be there when he is having a hard time, ever notice how people would come running to a particular person in need of something just because they know he has something they need. Sometimes we are all doing nothing and simply enjoying the company of others, still we need them for our entertainment in this case. The same applies for family and your children, and your religious leader, etc. You need these people to support your emotionally and give you a helping hand in life. Even parents. Why do most parents have children. Certainly not for pleasure, five minutes of pleasure and the next few decades providing for them? Is there really a logic to that? Anybody can see that five minutes of ecstasy does not justify spending half your life earnings. It is the need to continue one's progeny; not a single soul would like to see his name be wiped off, a child continues his name, and it certainly makes sense to give all your possessions to your child than to some random fool, atleast the child is your blood! This one instance gives all of us the chance to play creator. Not so unselfish now.

What about the people who give out charity and do other kinds of social work? Still selfish to me. They need this to make them feel better about themselves, so they can tell themselves that they are doing something about the problems of the world. I am not saying these people are suffering from inferior complexes or anything of the sort, they merely think that they will get the most satisfaction doing such work. Sure money is not what motivates them, but how they feel about themselves does. The fact that they are not doing this for money fog our view. Is that not selfish now?

So tell me now, is not everyone selfish? Is being selfish now a good thing or a bad thing as it has been shown in our history? Ought we to scorn the man who is completely self-involved? One need not look very far to find that there are others, who are selfish but do not seem so. Again, society has so conveniently blurred our vision.